It\u2019s pretty much an accepted fact that human beings make decisions emotionally, and then back up their emotion-based decisions with logic. We \u201crationalize\u201d\u2026 that is we tell ourselves \u201crational lies.\u201d And every one else does the same. Often, whether or not people will buy into what we say depends less upon logic, than on how their ego accepts the words they hear from us.<\/p>\n
Wouldn\u2019t you agree that, generally speaking, few people truly enjoy being corrected or criticized? I mean, I can\u2019t think of the last time someone criticized me, and I responded by saying, \u201cTHANK YOU! THANK YOU, for pointing out the error of my ways.\u201d Yet, in the real world, correcting and critiquing others is a part of life. Your kids didn\u2019t clean their rooms, your spouse overpaid on a negotiable product, your associate mishandled a presentation, your customer is not working with you correctly, etc.<\/p>\n
There is one concept above practically all else that makes the biggest difference in your ability to persuade others to your way of thinking and attain the results you desire. It is known by several different words: diplomacy, delicacy, sensitivity, savior faire, and yes, \u201ctact\u201d.<\/p>\n
Tact is the language of strength. It is the ability to say something or make a point in such a way that not only is the other person not offended; they are totally receptive. Learning what to say and how to say it will get results for you which will seem just like magic. Every situation you find yourself in, and every time you must call someone\u2019s attention to a particular way of acting, keep \u201ctact\u201d in mind. Tact will be the key to how those people receive you and what you say, and whether that person will ultimately take the action that will benefit all concerned.<\/p>\n
How do we utilize tact? First, we consider what we are going to say\u2026 before we say it. We edit our speech\u2026 before the speech. We ask ourselves questions such as, \u201cHow will he or she \u2018feel\u2019 about what I\u2019m about to say and how I\u2019m about to say it.\u201d<\/p>\n
Take a pretend tape recorder with you over the next 21 days, and \u201cplay back\u201d every conversation you have. Ask yourself, \u201cDid I think before I spoke, was I considerate of their feelings?\u201d \u201cWas I gentle in my manner, and was the expression on my face consistent with my words?\u201d<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s make an agreement, you and I, that we\u2019ll analyze the way we talk to others for just 21 days. If you feel as though you don\u2019t know the exact right words \u2014 no problem. Begin with the right thoughts; the rest will take care of it self.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
It\u2019s pretty much an accepted fact that human beings make decisions emotionally, and then back up their emotion-based decisions with logic. We \u201crationalize\u201d\u2026 that is we tell ourselves \u201crational lies.\u201d And every one else does the same. Often, whether or not people will buy into what we say depends less upon logic, than on how […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5166,5076,982,12,5165,293,382,1764,113,1491],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7421"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7421"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7421\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7421"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7421"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7421"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}