A pastor did an entire message on these seven \u201cC’s\u201d called \u201cA Marriage Survival Kit.\u201d He called this the Battle of the Seven C’s. Every one of these things are things that you have done and I have done. From now on these are out of bounds.<\/p>\n
1. NEVER COMPARE. Don’t say \u201cWhy can’t you be like her husband…\u201d or \u201cYou’re just like … \u201cIt’s unfair to compare. God made every person unique.<\/p>\n
2. NEVER CONDEMN. Don’t use phrase like, \u201cYou always…\u201d or \u201cYou never… You ought to… You should… You ought to be ashamed of yourself.\u201d Lay on the guilt, play the conscious. That’s God’s job to be their conscience not yours.<\/p>\n
3. NEVER COMMAND. Don’t try to end an argument by force. \u201cI demand that you do what I say! \u201cIf you don’t do this then I will this … \u201cI command you to do this…\u201d Don’t try to be a parent to your spouse. Don’t make demands it causes temperatures to be raised.<\/p>\n
4. NEVER CHALLENGE. Threats. \u201cJust try that and see what happens!\u201d Don’t threaten, challenge, cool your guns. The three most common threats in marriage are: sex, money, divorce. Rule those out as deadly weapons in your marriage. Don’t threaten to withhold sex, or go blow all the money, or go see a lawyer. That is a mark of immaturity. Let’s grow up and not use that.<\/p>\n
5. NEVER CONDESCEND. Never treat that person as less than they really are, as an inferior. Don’t put them down. Don’t ridicule them for their feelings or their logic or whatever. Above all, don’t play psychologist. \u201cI know why you said that… You said that because…\u201d Most of us have a difficult enough time figuring out our own motives much less figure out another person’s. Don’t prejudge motives. That’s definitely playing God. \u201cJudge nothing before the appointed time.\u201d 1 Corinthians 4:5<\/p>\n
6. NEVER CONTRADICT. Never interrupt in the middle of a sentence. When we do that we are not really listening. We are just thinking of refuting. Don’t cut each other off. Treat each other with consideration. \u201cEveryone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.\u201d James 1:19<\/p>\n
7. NEVER CONFUSE. This is when you bring up unrelated issues in the middle of the argument. Often you do this intentionally to sidetrack people. Some of you are very good at this. You learn this skill when you are a teenager. Mom and Dad ask you where you were and you look at your Mom, did you get your hair trimmed – it looks so nice. When you’re in an argument that you know you’re losing you bring up something unrelated and they start arguing about that. You keep switching the argument because you realize you’re losing. Stick with the issue. Don’t confuse people.<\/p>\n
Let me summarize these seven things in one sentence: Attack the issue, not each other. Proverbs 11:29 (Living Bible) \u201cThe fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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