{"id":6507,"date":"2019-09-30T04:15:24","date_gmt":"2019-09-30T04:15:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/churchedge.com\/illustrations\/index.php\/2019\/09\/30\/he-forgave-his-daughter-for-murder\/"},"modified":"2019-09-30T04:15:24","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T04:15:24","slug":"he-forgave-his-daughter-for-murder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.churchedge.com\/illustrations\/he-forgave-his-daughter-for-murder\/","title":{"rendered":"He Forgave His Daughter For Murder"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In the early morning hours of March 1, 2008, two young men burst into the Caffey home in Alba, Texas, and embarked on a killing spree.  Two young children and their mother were brutally murdered.  Their father, Terry Caffey, suffered multiple gunshot wounds but somehow managed to drag himself from the house before it was engulfed in an arson fire.<\/p>\n<p>The crime was shocking enough.  But when police revealed that Caffey\u2019s teenage daughter had been involved, the nation was stunned.<\/p>\n<p>Now, two years later, Caffey is sharing the lessons he learned from his appalling ordeal and trying to help others who have suffered.  \u201cI talk to young people about the dangers of running with the wrong crowd,\u201d Caffey, 41, said in an interview with AOL News.  \u201cI try to use my tragedy in a positive way, to reach out to others.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey\u2019s tragedy was set in motion about five months before the murders when his 16-year-old daughter, Erin, began dating 19-year-old Charlie Wilkinson.  Neither Terry nor his wife, 37-year-old Penny Caffey, approved of the relationship.  \u201cEarly on, I had reservations about the young man,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cThere were just things about him that didn\u2019t sit right with me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Hoping the relationship would eventually flicker out on its own, the Caffeys went about their daily routines and focused on their Christian church and their love of music.  Tyler, 8, played the guitar and Matthew, 13, played the harmonica.  Penny played piano at church.  Erin was the vocalist, but once she started dating Wilkinson, her interests changed.  \u201cWe had been dealing with Erin, with the rebellion going on and keeping an eye on everything,\u201d Caffey said.<\/p>\n<p>On Feb. 21, 2008, Caffey went to visit his father, Clarence \u201cSonny\u201d Caffey, and found him dead of natural causes.  It was a tough week for Caffey, but there was much more heartache to come.  \u201cA few days after we buried my dad, we found out some things through Charlie\u2019s MySpace page,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cAfter we saw those things &#8212; references to drinking and sexual activity &#8212; we pulled Erin aside and told her that we didn\u2019t raise her this way and that he was not good for her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Two days after Caffey\u2019s talk with his daughter, Wilkinson pulled up outside the Caffey house in the middle of the night.  He had two friends with him &#8212; Charles Allen Waid, 20, and Waid\u2019s 18-year-old girlfriend, Bobbi Gale Johnson.  Erin Caffey ran out of the house in her pajamas to meet the group and then sat in the car while Wilkinson and Waid entered the house.<\/p>\n<p>Terry Caffey recalls that it was about 2 a.m. when a noise woke him.  \u201cThey burst into our bedroom and opened fire, shooting me several times,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cNot only did they come in shooting, they also came in with a samurai sword.  After they shot Penny, they shot me three more times in the back and once in the back of the leg.  All in all, I think I had been shot 11 times.  I could not feel the right side of my body, and nothing would come out of my mouth.  I felt I had been shot in the face.  Then one of them took the sword and stabbed Penny in the neck, nearly decapitating her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey said he was going in and out of consciousness, but he thought of his children, who were asleep upstairs.  \u201cI began to panic,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cI was trying to get up, and I heard Matthew begin to cry out.  He said, \u2018No, Charlie.  No.  Why are you doing this?\u2019  When I heard his name mentioned by Matthew, I knew who was in my house and why he was there.  Then I heard the gunfire.  I tried to get up again, but the blood rushed to my head, and I collapsed.  I was later told Matthew had been shot, whereas they took turns stabbing Tyler, who was hiding in a closet.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey is uncertain how long he was unconscious.  While he was out, Wilkinson and Waid had gone through the house setting fire to the furniture.  \u201cWhen I woke up, the house was on fire,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cI knew I wasn\u2019t able to get upstairs because the flames were just pushing me back into the bedroom, so I crawled on the bed and found Penny.  She was already gone.  I finally managed to crawl out our bathroom window and then drag myself away from the house.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Roughly two hours passed from the start of the attack until Caffey was able to crawl 300 yards through the woods to neighbor Tommy Gaston\u2019s house.  When Gaston called 911, the operator asked him where Caffey was bleeding.  Gaston replied: \u201cWhere isn\u2019t he bleeding from?  It\u2019s a miracle he\u2019s here at all.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey was taken to East Texas Medical Center in Tyler and admitted to the critical care unit.  Roughly three hours later, authorities took Wilkinson, Waid and Johnson into custody.  Erin was found hiding inside a trailer that belonged to Waid\u2019s older brother.<\/p>\n<p>Erin was not initially considered a suspect.  But during police questioning, Waid told police he had been promised $2,000 for helping \u201ctake care of business\u201d in the murders.  According to police, all of the statements given by Wilkinson, Waid and Johnson were the same: The murders were Erin\u2019s idea.<\/p>\n<p>She was arrested while she was on the way to visit her father at the hospital.  All four defendants were initially charged with three counts of capital murder.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAfter burying my family, I went back to stay with my sister for a while and was reduced to living on her couch, and everything I owned was in the cardboard box,\u201d Terry Caffey said.  \u201cJust a few weeks prior to that, I had a beautiful home, acreage and a beautiful family.  It was all gone.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey says he suffered through months of depression and eventually decided to take his own life.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI planned my own suicide,\u201d he said.  \u201cI decided that when I got well enough to travel, I was going back to my property, and I was going to end it.  So when that day came, I went back there and stood on the ashes and began to cry to God.  I said, \u2018God, I don\u2019t understand why you took my family.  Why did you do this?  I just don\u2019t understand.\u2019<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNo sooner than I said that, I looked down and saw this scrap piece of paper from a book.  It was burned around the edges.  I picked it up, and it read, \u2018I couldn\u2019t understand why you would take my family and leave me behind to struggle along without them.  I may never totally understand that part of it, but I do know that you are sovereign.  You are in control.\u2019  When I read those words, I was like, \u2018Wow.\u2019  It brought me to my knees.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The page was from a book called \u201cBlind Sight,\u201d a novel about a man who loses his wife and two children in a car accident and must learn to come to grips with the tragedy.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt was written by Jim Pence, a good family friend,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cHe was my kids\u2019 karate instructor, and he had written several books.  I hadn\u2019t read this particular one.  He had given it to my wife about two or three years before the murders.  That crumpled page described exactly where I was at that moment.  It was then that I realized that God had put all this together, and I knew that I had been spared for a reason.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey said that before he could move on with his life, he had to forgive those who took the lives of his family.  He intervened on behalf of Wilkinson and Waid, who were facing the death penalty, and asked that it be taken off the table.  \u201cI wanted them to have a chance to find remorse and hopefully be sorry for what they had done, have a chance for repentance,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<p>It took several months, but eventually a plea deal was reached.  As part of that deal, Wilkinson and Waid had to face Caffey and explain their actions.  \u201cThe only little bit of remorse I got was from Wilkinson,\u201d Caffey said.  \u201cHe kept looking down and cried a little bit.  It was pretty tough for him.  He told his lawyer later that it was the toughest thing he ever had to do, and I said, \u2018That\u2019s good.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey had an equally difficult time when he sat down with his daughter.  \u201cI asked her about it, and she started crying,\u201d he said.  \u201cShe said, \u2018I have nothing to hide from you.  I will tell you anything you want.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p>He said Erin told him she knew of the plot but tried to get away that night, and the others forced her to wait in the car while they killed her family.  \u201cHer boyfriend has tried to pin it on her, saying she was the mastermind, and he was just going along with it because she brainwashed him, but I knew that was not true.  That\u2019s not her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Caffey admits his decision to forgive his daughter and the others has brought a lot of criticism, but he says he doesn\u2019t let it bother him.  \u201cPeople ask me, \u2018How could you forgive your daughter and how could you forgive those who murdered your family?\u2019  I am not trying to justify anything.  This is my daughter.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In October 2008, Wilkinson and Waid were each sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole.  Three months later, Johnson and Erin Caffey both pleaded guilty to murder.  Johnson was sentenced to two 40-year concurrent sentences, and Erin was given two consecutive life sentences, plus 25 years.  Johnson will be eligible for parole in 24 years.  Erin will not be eligible until she serves roughly 40 years of her sentence.<\/p>\n<p>Terry Caffey has since remarried and is now a stepfather to two children.  He stepped down from his job with a medical supply company last year and now focuses on his ministry and speaking engagements.  He also recently released a book, \u201cTerror by Night,\u201d which details the murders of his family and his rise from tragedy.  He co-authored the book with Pence, author of \u201cBlind Sight.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI get e-mails and letters just about every day from all over the country, from people who are hurting and suffering,\u201d Caffey said, \u201cpeople who are going through maybe similar things or maybe things just totally completely opposite of what I have gone through, but yet I have been able to help.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>[Original illustration at this number was moved to HolwickID #5291]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the early morning hours of March 1, 2008, two young men burst into the Caffey home in Alba, Texas, and embarked on a killing spree. Two young children and their mother were brutally murdered. 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