Do you want to “become a better person, a faster-growing Christian, a better parent and a better pastor”? If so, get a divorce, according to a Lutheran minister in a denominational magazine. His article reflects the selfishness of the 1970’s. Plagenz gives the rationalizations that divorce is better for the children, and they will adjust, but studies show all children of divorce are burdened with pain and guilt. Even older children in college are affected deeply. (Studies: Dr. David Goodman; Wellesley College, etc.) Children need an advocate in divorces.