In her book, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships , psychologist and popular relationship therapist Sue Johnson suggests that feeling like a team of two is generally the key to happiness. “She makes the case,” reports Laura Landro for the Wall Street Journal , “that adult romantic love is an ‘attachment bond’ just like the one between mother and child, but one that can be securely cemented without the genetic link.”
As a part of her “Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy,” Johnson will often have couples engage in bond building exercises. In one, for example, she asks couples to stand facing each other, noses touching. She then instructs them to try to bring their breathing into sync with one another.
Do you and your significant other work together like a team? If breathing exercises can be effective in bringing a couple into greater harmony with one another, imagine how “securely cemented” their relationship might be if the bonding agent were the shared experiences of God’s love. It’s the spiritual science of romance — two people who breathe in sync with God automatically begin to breathe in sync with each other.
“Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony” (Colossians 3:14).