A word of advice on the importance of family relationships. It comes from a man who took his own life. Vince Foster, deputy presidential counsel to President Clinton, spoke to the 1993 graduating class of Arkansas University School of Law only six weeks before his death. His words now echo back to us from somewhere in eternity. This is a portion of what Mr. Foster said to several hundred young lawyers on that historic day:
Three weeks ago my wife, Lisa, and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary, and it was here in Fayetteville (University of Arkansas) law school, where we celebrated our first. Like many in this audience, she began by putting me through law school, and for 22 years she always encouraged me to persevere and to aim higher. She has been my editor, my jury consultant and my best friend. I wish for each of you a Lisa. A word about family. You have amply demonstrated that you are achievers willing to work hard, long hours and set aside your personal lives. But it reminds me of that observation that no one was ever heard to say on a death bed, “I wish I had spent more time at the office.” Balance wisely your professional life and your family life. If you are fortunate to have children, your parents will warn you that your children will grow up and be gone before you know it. I can testify that it is true. God only allows us so many opportunities with our children to read a story, go fishing, play catch and say our prayers together. Try not to miss a one of them. The office can wait. It will still be there after your children are gone.
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From “Reflections by Vincent Foster and Law and His Life,” The National Law Journal, New York: The New York Law Publishing Company, p. 31.