Recently, I read about six divorce myths. I would like to share those with you and expand on them a little.
Myth #1: The grass is greener outside my marriage . The conflict you are in may give that impression. That is seldom the case after the divorce. The truth: what looks so green is usually the weeds.
Myth #2: The kids will be better off. The truth: Divorce, even under the best of circumstances, has a devastating effect on children. Kids will always want their mother and father to be together.
Myth #3: Divorce is justified in my case because I’m not in love anymore . The world has taken over this person’s thinking. The truth: The same God who commanded people to love their enemies will gladly help couples who want to learn to love each other again.
Myth #4: Divorce will make me happy. Happiness is determined by a person’s attitude, not by circumstances. The truth: While some people subsequently come to experience happiness, most experience guilt, loneliness, and anxiety.
Myth #5: Divorce will set me free. There are all kinds of prisons. The truth: Divorce doesn’t really free you; it shackles you in a different way.
Myth #6: It is God’s will for me to divorce. Satan has told that lie millions of times. The truth: God has declared that He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16).
God wants all His children to be happy. More important, God wants all His children to be righteous. God wants all His children to be faithful. God wants all His children to be happy doing His will.
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Gearld Elliot, Pulpit Helps , April 1996, p. 25